21 Golden Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Successful For Life
With text messages and video conferencing at our fingertips, maintaining a long-distance relationship seems easier than ever. Long-distance calls are no longer a luxury; the days they needed to legalize are long gone.
Long-distance couples don't have to rely on postal delivery at 3 p.m., waiting for the four-day news at best.
Now we no longer wait even in the days waiting for our loved ones to check their email when they come home from work. Instant messaging keeps us in touch even when we're out shopping, working, playing, watching a movie, and doing more.
However, technology cannot make up for everything in a long-term relationship, as anyone with a long-term relationship will tell you.
Many long-distance relationships still seem emotionally difficult despite the lack of regular physical affinity.
People often think that long-distance relationships will never work. Your family may discourage you, and some of your best friends may tell you not to take it seriously if you end up grieving.
Many things are not possible because of the extra distance - no one can promise that it will be easy. Things can get complicated, and you may feel lonely and sad sometimes.
Still, many of us are trying.
However, the extra distance makes the simplest things sweeter. Be able to hold the other person's hand, eat together at one table, feel each other's touch, walk together, tattoo each other's hair ... These small desires may suddenly mean a lot in a long-distance relationship.
Long-distance relationships can be difficult, but they also have their own surprises.
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Here’re 21 tips on how to make a long-distance relationship work
1. Avoid excessive communication.
It is not wise to be excessive in "viscosity" and ownership. You don't have to communicate 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going. Many couples believe they need to make up for the distance by doing more. That's not true. It may get worse. Soon I was sick of "love."
Remember: the least is the most. It's not about spam. It's really about getting excited at the right moments and pulling in the right places.
2. See it as an opportunity.
“If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” – Anonymous
Look at it as an educational trip for both of you. This is an opportunity for you to prove your love for each other. According to a Chinese like, "Real gold is not afraid of a fire test." Instead of thinking that this long-distance relationship separates you, you should believe that through this experience, you will both be stronger connected.
As Emma Lowell says in the fourth season of Glee,
“I would rather be here, far from you, but feeling really close, rather than close to you but feeling really far away.” – Emma, Glee Season 4
3. Set some ground rules to manage your expectations.
Both of you should be clear about what you expect from each other during this long-distance relationship. Set some basic rules so that none of you do things that will surprise the other party.
For example, are you two exclusively? Is it appropriate for the other person to go on dates? What is your level of commitment? It's better to be open to each other about all these things.
4. Try to communicate regularly, and creatively.
Greet "Good morning" and "good night" every day - this is a must. Moreover, try to inform your partner about the latest developments in your life and events, no matter how normal some things seem.
To increase the level of the game, send each other some photos, audio clips, and short videos from time to time. By making this kind of effort, you make the other person feel love and attention.
5. Talk dirty with each other.
Sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between spouses. In a way, libido is like the glue that prevents both parties from drifting. Sexual need is not only biological but also emotional.
Keep the flame on by sending teasing texts filled with sexual insinuations and provocative descriptions. Erotic puns work well too.
6. Avoid "dangerous" situations.
If you already know that going to the club or going drinking with a group of friends late at night will upset your partner, you should either 1. Don't do it or 2. Tell your partner in advance to reassure them.
You shouldn't let this kind of thing get away with you because it will make your partner more anxious or suspicious - and, of course, very upset that he will feel helpless or lack control over the situation.
You can fall victim to your boats by getting out of work after work or dating someone from your past who was flirting with you without realizing it. Before getting into a dangerous situation, you have to be aware of the risks.
Listen to your heart, but don't just count on it. Be sure to listen to your mind too.
7. Do things together.
Play an online game together. Watch a documentary at the same time on YouTube or Vimeo. Share a song on Skype while another plays guitar. Call the video together and go for a walk together. Together, go shopping online - and buy other gifts.
You really have to be creative and spontaneous about it.
8. Do similar things.
Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news, etc. to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same things, you'll have more common topics to talk about.
Even if you live separately, it is good to share some experiences.
9. Make visits to each other.
Each long-term relationship is enriched by visits.
After all the waiting, nostalgia, and abstinence, you can finally meet each other to achieve all the little things like kissing, holding hands, etc., these things are typical for couples in long-distance but more private and intimate relationships for long-distance couples.
The atmosphere will be full of fireworks, flashing bombs, cardboard, rainbows, and butterflies.
10. Have a goal in mind.
Are we going to be separated for a long time? "What about the future?" These are the questions you should ask yourselves.
In fact, the couple cannot stay in a long-distance relationship forever. In the end, we all need stability.
So make a plan with each other. Set up a schedule, select estimated times individually and times together, and set a final goal.
It's important to be on the same page and have the same goals. So, even if you don't live in the same place and the same time zone, you're still excited to work together in the same direction toward a future that includes each other.
11. Enjoy your time alone and time with your friends and family.
You're alone, but you're not alone unless you choose to feel it. You don't have to let your world revolve around your partner - you, your friends, and your family still have it. Take this time to do more with your friends and family. Go to the gym often. Get a new hobby. Binge-watching offers. There are a lot of things you can do without involving your partner.
12. Stay honest with each other.
He talked about feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, and indifference, at all. If you try to hide anything from your partner, this secret will swallow you sooner or later from the inside out. Don't try to deal with things yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. It is better to look at the problem during its initial phase than to detect it until it is too late.
13. Know each other’s schedules.
It's useful to know when the other person is busy and full-time. So you can leave a text message or make a call in time. You won't want to upset your partner when they're in the middle of the semester or in the middle of a business meeting. Make sure you are familiar with the small and large events of everyone in their lives, for example, midterm exams, university exams, business trips, important meetings, job interviews, etc. Especially if you live in different time zones, this becomes even more important.
14. Keep track of each other’s social media activities.
Facebook and Instagram photos of each other. Send tweets (Twitter) to each other. Mark each other on Facebook. Put things on each other's wall. Let them know you care. Be quiet chasing each other.
15. Gifting something personal to the other person to hold on to.
Memories have power. No matter what this product is - a necklace, a ring, a keychain, a collection of songs and videos, or a perfume bottle. Everyday items and things have meanings for us, whether we realize it or not. We all try to store memories in physical things so that when our minds fail, we will still be able to look or hold on to something that helps us remember our memories. That's why something so simple can mean so much to someone while others may see little or no value.
16. Get a good messaging app.
This is very important because texting is the most common way to communicate with you. You need a good messaging app on your phones that allows interactions that go beyond words and symbols.
I personally use this messaging app called LINE. I find it very effective because it has a large reserve of very fun and funny "stickers" that users can use for free. You can also go to the app's "poster shop" to download (or gift!) additional stickers with different themes (such as Hello Kitty, Pokemon, Snoopy, MARVEL, etc.) at a low price. From time to time, the app will offer free poster sets for upgrades. This messaging app is nice and easy to learn to use.
17. Send the gift by snail mail.
Send some handwritten postcards and love letters. Send gifts to each other all over the world from time to time. Deliver flowers at birthdays, anniversary celebrations, and Valentine's Day. Shop online and surprise each other with great shirts, sexy underwear, etc.
18. Stay positive.
You need to constantly pump positive energy into the long-distance relationship to keep it alive. Yes, waiting can be painful, and you may sometimes feel lonely, but you have to remind yourself that the fruits will eventually be as sweet as paradise.
One good trick to staying positive is to be grateful all the time. Be grateful that you have someone you love - someone who loves you too. Be grateful for the little things, such as the handmade letter that safely arrived at your mailbox the other day. Be thankful for each other's health and safety.
19. Keep each other updated on each other’s friends and family.
This will help you learn about each other's culture and values. Knowing each other's small habits helps develop understanding and build mutual trust.
Talking about family and friends gives you more to talk about. The best we can talk about is rumors and scandals.
20. Video call whenever possible.
Because sometimes looking into each other's eyes and hearing each other's voices can make everything okay again.
Although a video call is nothing like being together, it's the best thing and most you can do to rest in a long-distance relationship.
21. Give each other pet names.
Because he's nice. It keeps the beloved going. Having special names for each other reserved only for each other is gratifying. Hearing this one word of love lifts our spirits, and we feel reassured again.
The chaos seems to fade once you hear that special word from someone special.
with the best wishes...
Love (or something) is a force beyond your control. Love only happens. The same applies to stopping these feelings, even when you get the perfect job halfway around the country.
None of us expect to be away in a relationship. But if you're in a relationship like this, all you have to do is make the most of a difficult situation. We hope these tips for long-distance relationships will help you stay strong and cheerful when living apart.
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